Positively Periods 01 // Vagina Love By Tara – Cattitude&Co.
Hello and welcome to Positively Periods, a new series here on my blog teatimewithnaomi. As many of my fellow ladies will be able to relate to, my relationship with my period has been a rocky one, filled with tears, dizzy-spells and even an operation (thanks for that one ovaries). Every month I dread the pain, the mood swings, the teary afternoons at my work desk praying for the clock to strike that magical hour where I can go home and binge on all the foods that I know are bad for me but tastes so damn good.
Yes, I was a downer when it came to ‘the red hibernation’ as I like to call it, until that is, I stumbled upon the new internet sensation (if one could call it that); Period Positivity. An empowering conversation was stirring on the internet and before I knew it, I was bombarded by blog posts I never knew I needed. Knowing I wanted to start my own period positivity journey and help inspire others, I decided to start my own little series on my blog, and thus Positively Periods was born; A place where women can share their experiences with their periods and the journey they have taken together. So, without further a do, let’s get this show on the road with the first installment of this – arguably exciting- new series, and what better way to start than with the journey of the Queen of Period Positivity herself, Tara from Cattitude & Co.
As many of you may know I have a pretty positive relationship with my period. It’s something I welcome and I would go as far as saying it’s a big part of my identity. As somebody who enjoys having a fresh start with every new moon, I learn a lot about myself each cycle and I’m incredibly grateful for that. I’m also really thankful that my periods are manageable enough for me to embrace them each month. It wasn’t always this way though; for years menstruation was something I loathed and I did everything in my power to stop it from happening.
I think a lot of teenagers suffer with their periods growing up, it’s almost a rite of passage. For years, I took birth control to help with mine. I loved the fact that they made them easier to manage. At one point I even stopped my periods altogether and went without one for three months. All of these extra hormones in an already angsty teenager was a terrible idea and unfortunately I realised this too late.
One day something just changed within me. It was like my uterus hadn’t been happy for a while and it was about time she piped up. I could hear her roar and I listened to her. I ditched all birth control completely, I had three periods from hell as revenge, then I became the period positive Queen I am today.
Looking back, I can see that my negative feelings about periods, and my body, stemmed from other people’s shitty beliefs. For example: I had boyfriends that made me feel like I was the most disgusting thing ever once a month. I wasn’t an overly confident teen and when I was put down I believed it.
Somewhere along the line, I thankfully learnt to ignore the masses and trust my vagina. My body fascinates me, I learn a lot about myself each cycle. I very much enjoy going through the motions and embracing my feelings. I feel things on a much deeper level whilst menstruating and often gain clarity during this time. The fact that my body can teach me things I didn’t even know just amazes me.
Coming off birth control has been the greatest decision of my life. If I was still on it, I wouldn’t be as fearless and unapologetic as I am today. I would be buying into the crap society tells us and I’d be listening to those stupid boys that made me feel gross. Becoming period positive has been one of the most gratifying experiences of my life so far! I’m more in touch with my body, which is something that has directly improved my mental health. I’ve become more empowered to reject ideals and listen to my body. I’ve ditched methods that didn’t work for me and found some amazing alternatives out there. I’ve also learnt all about my body as well as conditions that affect millions like endometriosis and PCOS.
I became the woman I am today through many periods, I owe my life to my vagina.
If you would like to get involved in the Poistively Period Project, drop me a line over at firstname.lastname@example.org
Disclaimer: This image was taken by me and while I am disgustingly nervous posting it, you can’t spread potivity without actually emitting it, or at least doing your best to do so.
Hey Guys! Naomi here, your typical yet not so ordinary twenty something Welsh girl living on the southern island of Kyushu, Japan. An avid writer, when I'm not writing for my blog or cafe hunting, I'm busy working on a novel and various articles.