I know what you’re thinking. Me, how selfish. But I have to disagree with you. People, (arguably women more so) are conditioned to put others needs before themselves. Whether it’s for our children, family, friends, lovers or even strangers, we are encouraged to put others needs before our own. While I agree with this sentiment a lot of the time, I also think it’s time we look after ourselves and put our needs first when we can.
Next year, in 2019, Chad and I will be getting married and I will hopefully be moving to Canada. This means that next year and all those that follow, will (happily) be about us.
While Chad was visiting over the winter holidays, we had a very honest and open conversation about our future and what we need to do for ourselves. I noticed that we were so worried about how our careers would affect the other before we were even fully launched into them, that we were hindering ourselves. We were putting ourselves second but doing more damage than good.
It was then that I decided that I would live this year for me.
With my mental health currently taking a nosedive, I think this is the perfect time to take this mantra to heart and put myself first. I’m not sure I’m going to be any good at it, and I’m sure I’m going to stumble and hurt myself along the way, but for the first time in my life, I’m going to give myself permission to put myself first.
And I challenge all you wonderful people to do the same. At the end of the day, we have one life, and while we should treat others with kindness and consideration always, this does not mean we need to harm ourselves in the process.
So make this year your year and when everything seems a little tough, think about what would make you happy, and go for it.
Share in the comment section about your 2018 mantra, or a story of when you put yourself first for the better.