You are enough.
I feel like people don’t hear this as much as they should. Every day we are told through subtle, and also not so subtle hints that we are not enough; that we need to be more than we are in order to be happy and successful. Men are constantly being told to muscle up in order to be more of a man, while women are told to shrink to half their size in order to be more desirable. Us millennials should be more grateful despite our prospects being so much lower than our parents. Women need to be more accountable for their bodies, even if things are out of our control. Mothers need to be more devoted to their children and men need to be bringing home more money.
But at the same time, women should be more independent and men need to spend more time with their families. Smile more. Be more social. Read more. Take more care in your appearance.
You notice how I end up using the word more a lot. I think it says a lot about our society, about the time in which we live where people can’t seem to get enough of anything. We always want more. More money, more friends, more love, more things. Out of all of the billions of people in the world, you are the only you, so why on earth be anyone else.
This is something I struggle with.
I try so hard to be ‘more’ that I end up trying to become someone else. I step out of the boundaries of myself, wearing myself thin and tired. We place a role model too heavily in our sights and forget that we are not them and they are not us. Emulate if you wish, grow into someone you want to be, but never at the risk of losing you. For you are the person those close to you love. You are the only person who thinks like you, who feels like and who sees the world like you do; You, who is solely unique in all of your talents and flaws.
In a time when we are always pressed to be better, to expand beyond our us-ness into an updated version, it’s easy to feel like you aren’t enough. But know that you are enough. You have always been enough, and you will always be enough.